Wisdom from a former 1%er biker

So a few months ago I caught my girlfriend cheating (and a few other things I won’t go into) and so I broke up with her.  I was mad, really mad, I felt hurt, I felt used, and wanted revenge.
I deliver newspapers and while I was waiting for my papers I was talking to a fellow driver who is a former 1%er motorcycle club member and telling him what happened and how I wanted revenge.  He listened and let me rant, then after a few minutes of my ranting and talking about getting revenge he very quietly said “have you ever gotten revenge on someone?” to which I replied I had and he asked “when you look back on it, how do you feel about what you did?”, and it was at that moment that I realized that I regretted ever taking revenge.  Sure it made me feel better at first, but in the end I regret ever doing it and regret the hurt that may of come from it.
When I told him that I regretted it he looked at me and said “I’ve taken revenge on a lot of people, and you know what it’s got me?  Life long regret, lost relationships, and once other people suffered because of it”.  And as he said these words to me I could see the pain in his eyes, and I knew he was right.  After a moment he looked me right in the eyes and said “I had a cellmate in prison tell me something and I wish I had listened to him sooner, he told me “a weak man seeks revenge, a strong man forgives, but a wise man try’s to figure out why he was hurt” you don’t have to actually figure out why you were hurt, but it’s the act of trying that can help you forgive and move on”.
These gentle and wise words, from a man who in another life would have put you in the hospital for looking at him wrong, made me step back and really think.  For the rest of the night I just thought about what he said, and by the end of the night I had calmed down and knew seeking revenge would only hurt me in the end.  And yes I was still mad, and feeling hurt, but the blood lust I felt was gone and I felt more at peace.
At first I didn’t really try to figure out why she hurt me, I just dealt with the pain and tried to get over that first, but once I had gotten over the pain I started to think about why she had done what she had done.  I’ve never come to an answer, I have some theories but I know I’ll never know for sure, and that’s alright because I realized that the simple act of trying to figure it out helps you forgive and move on.  I’m not trying to tell you that you have to completely forgive the person who hurt you, I know I never will never completely forgive my ex, but I’ve forgiven her enough to move on with my life, and in the end being able to move on is what you really want, because really what good would knowing why they did what they did do for you?  And even if they told you why they did it, would you really believe them?
Wise Words

Couser v. Comenity Bank Settlement

A few days ago I received a card in the mail from claims administrator for the Couser v. Comenity Bank settlement, at first I was suspicious and so I did a little research and here is what I found.
They claim in the mailer they send out that you will get a payment of $500 to $1,500, this is not true.  The Telephone Consumer Protection Act (TCPA) allows for this as the maximum fines but the settlement that Comenity Bank  made sates the following:
Each class member would receive anywhere from 98 cents — if all class members submit claims — to more than $32 if just 3 percent or fewer submit claims
So you will not get more than $32.00 not the $500 to $1,500 they claim you’ll get.  And I know what your thinking “it’s still free money!” and yes it is but you’ll be taxed on what every you get and do you really want to have to figure out the tax implications of $0.98?
I for one will not be claiming this since for one I don’t want to deal with the tax issues for such a small amount of money, and second I don’t really trust these people, if they are willing

Need to edit a PDF file? Try this.

So you have a PDF file and you want to edit it but can’t seem to figure out how? Well children through some searching on the Google Docs Help Forum I was able to find a PDF editor. It’s completely online and it’s completely free! I’ve tried it out and while it’s not perfect, it is very good.

The website is called PDFescape.com (from now on it will be called PDFE)

PDFE is very nice and easy to use, you just go to the website click “START NOW” then choose whether or not you want to create a profile and then you upload your PDF file and you can edit to your hearts content. I chose not to create a profile even though it’s free just due to the fact that I was editing a PDF with financial information on it and you are unable to save the document to their server if you don’t have a profile, you can however safe the document to your own computer, just felt a little better about it that way being the first time I had ever used PDFE. I will admit I am considering setting up a profile though, especially if I start having to edit PDF files more, which it seems I am.

So I hope this helps you out since I know I’ve been stuck more than once trying, unsuccessfully, to figure out how to edit a PDF file.